Life Lesson
This lesson learned was one that I, as a mother, hoped would not come for many more years. But as we all know, life does not happen as we hope and pray that it would.
I will not tell you the story that precipitated her life lesson. That story should be significant only to her. Suffice it to say, Oldest Daughter chose to end an important friendship yesterday. She chose to end it because this friend continually hurt her feelings, chose another over her even when told it was hurting Oldest Daughters' feelings and in general made her too sad to want to give her a fifth or sixth chance.
As her mother, my heart aches for her. I want to take away her hurt feelings, her confusion about why another person would treat her badly, especially when she was considered a best friend. As a mother of a girl, I knew this lesson would one day come, but I had hoped it would be to a much older girl. But as the mother of this Oldest Daughter, my hurting heart is also swelling a bit with pride. Oldest Daughter has a heart that is open, even now. She is a body full of love, wanting nothing more than to share that love. But she is also a girl that knows her heart. She recognized that it was not ok to purposely hurt another person and that when it kept happening, the girl wasn't worth staying friends with. Sadly, I know quite a few adults that have not yet learned this lesson.
Oldest Daughter came to this conclusion all on her own. I did not prompt her. I did not suggest it, nor hint at it. I just counselled her after the decision was made that even though they are no longer friends, she should still continue to be polite to her. She just smiled at me and said, "Mommy, I already know that". Yep, that's my girl! JCMT
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